Since I have become a mother, I noticed myself that looking to see what other people were doing more and more. I wanted to make sure that I wasn’t doing something ‘wrong’, that I wasn’t going to ‘mess my son up’ in some way. Some parents seem like they have it all together without even trying. Meanwhile I have spit up on my jacket, my pant legs are pushed up in my boots and I forget to finish doing my hair before I left the house! And I’ve only got one child!! How do they do it? Once I started talking to more Moms, I realized that the majority of us feel like me, completely out of sorts. So when I am scraping dried carrot from my cheek, lunch that got sneezed out by my son and I didn’t get out of the way of in time….washing my face, another thing forgotten on my way out the door, I don’t feel so out of sorts anymore, in fact I have found that I need to laugh at these little things. Why get upset? that is just wasted energy that could be put into my child.
Conversely, my house is clean, dinners ready at dinner time, I have time to blog! I actually have a more ordered day then I think. We have a routine, my son and I. For the most part we stick to it too! (babies are people and have ‘off’ days too.) So just because I happen to have some peas in my hair doesn’t mean that I am incompetent in all areas of my life….like raising a child. Right?? My gauge for knowing that I am NOT messing up my son is him… he is usually a happy guy (if only those darn teeth would pop out!) and most people comment on how content he is. We’ve had people ask if he ever cries?! Hahaha of course! That is worth having peaches on my shirt!
I know that I should present myself a little better, and that is happening. Like most things I am a work in progress, and it is all coming together. My point, we all have days we don’t know up from down. When these little things happen, because they will! Laugh. Learning to laugh at yourself is a wonderful trait.
Marla
write by Lani
